“date someone who is really interested in you.”. that is the point. We should give our attention to people who are ready to know everything about us. And when I say everything I mean past, present and future. When we meet a new person and we think we like this person is because there something in his/her life that can switch on our mind. It is crucial to take time to know every detail about the previous life of the new person we are dating and it is very important to pay attention.
Personally, I focus a lot on details and I usually remember every single peculiar thing. I think everything is important to build a good relationship. How could you trust a person that you don’t know deeply?!
For example, I am a sort of “writer” so the people in my heart have to read my articles and give me a feedback. Doesn’t matter if they agree or not, but I need them to read my words and to show interest in what I write.
It would be the same if my new partner wrote me a letter. I love letters and I always read them at least three times, to check every single word and potential meaning. I am a big fun of writing, because when n I write I am on my imaginary planet where I can think whatever I want and I can express myself with no brakes. Written words are even more deep than a conversation, because they will stay there forever. A piece of paper can be an unforgettable memory.
On the other hand, people who don’t care about my favourite music are not worth enough. I’m not going to waste my time dating someone who is not open-minded and ready to listen to all my playlist and share his songs with me.
Songs are the soundtrack of our life and they are often the background of a love story. You don’t need to be a singer or musician to make music important. But when a person we like seriously show interest and ask us “what kind of music do you like?” and then he/she go on Spotify and search all your favourite songs that’s pretty much love 😊
Having a relationship means that you are ready to share your life with the other person, your all life. It’s amazing how many new things we can learn and find out dating a new person.
Even movies play a massive role in our life. I am not a big fan of TV, I usually prefer watching movies or series on my computer but still an important side of me. And when you find someone who really would like to sit with you and lose himself in a movie, doing comments, laughing together and even pretending to act that’s awesome!
These situations seem quite ordinary and maybe “naive”, but they are all part of our life. We are made of this. And when we date someone and hopefully we are ready to build a long strong relationship, we should share everything. What we like and what we dislike affect our personality and it is a good start to find someone willing to know all of this.
Another sentence that made me reflect is “someone who wants to find every scar on your body and learn where each one came from”. I think it means that in a new relationship is good to know about the background of the other person. Scars are the signs of something that happened in the past and they are permanent, they will be part of this person’s life forever. If we decide to build a close relationship with someone we should know where this person come from and what he/she did in the past. The past will be always there and we cannot cancel it, it’s part of our background and affects what we are now. We shouldn’t hide our scars and what the mean. If our relationship becomes very close and private we should try to be open to each other. And if you are so lucky that you can find someone who is ready to know everything about your previous life, without judging and who is ready to accept it we certainly must date this person.
I’m going to conclude reflecting on the difference between attraction and interest.
This is the key. Life is short and we should spend our time with people who are worth enough.
So, guys, when you find someone who is ready to ask you millions of questions about everything, someone who can remember your answers, someone who would like to share music, movies, books, food with you without complaining keep this person with you. Do your best to know each other and to create lovely memories that you will keep in your heart. Time spent with this kind of people is always good!
And remember that our life is precious and it’s a shame to waste time with people who cannot open their mind and who don’t want to share anything with us.
“spread the love like peanut butter on a toast guys!” cit. Sissy 2016.